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Recently I've started a huge venture for me online, doing Youtube videos or streams and cosplays etc. and I've just started earning a little money from doing it from my Patreon account. You'd think this would give me a huge confidence boost, right? Wrong. As soon as the first pledges came through and people actually wanted to pay a little to see some of the extras in the shoots and VLOGs etc I tried to quit. I messaged Ben that I was going to take the sites down. He was a bit confused but reminded me that I've done this before with my book and then alter with my streams. As soon as things start to get good, I throw it all away. 

So I sat down and tried to understand why I would get this huge PANIC to just close down every social media account I have and live forever in my house under my fluffy blanket, eating cheese and drinking Lara's Ribena cartons. Then it hit me: I feel like a fraud. I don't feel like I'm good enough at any of the things that I do to earn anything from them. I don't feel like people should have had to pay for my book that took a year to write, or to see any of the hours and hours of work I did on my clay modelling, photo restorations or my cosplays or my Twitch streams or my Youtube videos. I don't feel worthy enough. That's why I quit my Twitch really, it wasn't time. That was an excuse. Once I got Affliate status and people could pay I quit because I didn't feel it was worth anything. That's why I took my book off Amazon once it got to 3000 downloads and it's why I always sabotage everything that I do. In case I disappoint someone from it. I'm fine with other people's work, but when it comes to my own, I am my worst damn critic. With great hair. 

Can't even begin to recall just how many things I've stopped myself from doing because I don't feel like I deserve that kind of happiness. Even as a young girl I could never imagine having a life past my teen years, not in a suicidal way in the slightest but when I looked forward it was always black, I didn't feel like I deserved one. Ha. Like I would just cease to exist after that point! it's only recently that I've been able to decode my own brain like this. No bloody wonder I've got anxiety now. 🙄

The hardest part of figuring this out was then realising that the only way to stop it would be to face it head on, keep everything I'm doing and push through. I've had a really long fortnight of anxiety as people begin to up their pledges or message me and tell me they love my cosplays, photos or videos and I've had to stop myself from legging it and becoming a hermit with one of those Gandalf hats and a long pipe with nothing in it because I don't smoke. I've never sweated so much in my life and I workout 4 times a week. My stomach is now a mess and I'm off to the doctors to deal with neck tension and tinnitus because given how high my anxiety has been, it's all come back with vengeance! 

I'm assuming this can be quite common amongst others with depression or anxiety and if you've dealt with this and carried on then fucking well done, it really isn't easy!  I gave up creating things before I even started my adult life because of it. So I've got a few years of catch up to do now, ignoring that annoying little bastard in my head and just going for it. So if you see me around, be kind. I'm broken. 😉

Have a great week, guys. 
NX 

 



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Then it hit me: I feel like a fraud.

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I don't feel like I deserve that kind of happiness.

I know those feels. But you got this! My door is always open for a chat if you need 🙂

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Very nice post, although it does make me feel a little sad to see someone who his clearly talented struggle with self belief. Grab the bull by the horns, if you cannot believe in yourself, believe in the people that believe in you. They are not going to throw away their cold hard cash in supporting you if they did not believe in you. Your are not a fraud and you are not pulling wool over peoples eyes. Now relax, enjoy what you are doing and keep up the great work! 

P.s I appreciate that what I have just said means nothing to an Anxiety suffer which is generally irrational, but it needed to be said anyway.

P.s.s Your instagram link doesnt work 😉

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On 6/5/2019 at 12:49 PM, RegalSausage said:

I know those feels. But you got this! My door is always open for a chat if you need 🙂

Thank you, really appreciate it :) 

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On 6/6/2019 at 11:26 AM, DickDraco said:

Very nice post, although it does make me feel a little sad to see someone who his clearly talented struggle with self belief. Grab the bull by the horns, if you cannot believe in yourself, believe in the people that believe in you. They are not going to throw away their cold hard cash in supporting you if they did not believe in you. Your are not a fraud and you are not pulling wool over peoples eyes. Now relax, enjoy what you are doing and keep up the great work! 

P.s I appreciate that what I have just said means nothing to an Anxiety suffer which is generally irrational, but it needed to be said anyway.

P.s.s Your instagram link doesnt work 😉

Thank you, the support from you guys has really helped. Thanks for the heads up on the link btw ;) 

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That imposter syndrome can be killer. I'm glad you're able to see it for what it is though! That's the first step to coming out on top!

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